Elizabeth Melton Parsons

Writing~Art~Life

Get Off My Back

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I thought the title of this post appropriate because I haven’t slept much in a week due to a severe back issue. Haven’t been around here much for the same reason. It’s just too miserable trying to sit and read or type. I have a few things to say and then I won’t be around until I’m feeling better.

Do not take my photos, call them your own, and put them in collections for distribution. That’s a violation of copyright law, not to mention vastly annoying. I found several last week being used this way by different websites. Some offering them for free, others charging a fee. One website owner responded immediately to my email and removed my photo. Thank you for that.

Do not send emails telling other bloggers how to run their blogs. And most especially don’t tell them they are going to burn in hell for the things they post. I don’t dignify such emails with an answer. I’m answering all past, present and future ones right here, right now. This is my blog and until WordPress shuts me down and kicks me out, I will post whatever I please. Don’t send me threats, they might raise my ire a bit, but will have no effect on what I post here. I am not afraid of you. If you have a problem with something I post, that’s what the comment section is for. Have the guts to use it. Don’t hide behind anonymity. And if you don’t like me or my blog or both–please feel free to go away. You will not hurt my feelings one little bit. No one is forcing you to follow my blog or read my posts.

Do not send me emails asking me to buy and leave an Amazon review of your book and telling me you will buy and review mine. I am not fond of these kinds of exchanges because I am not looking for reviews (I do appreciate any I get, but I’m not actively pursuing them). And I’m not looking to improve my sales rank. Most of my books have been on Amazon’s best selling lists (even at number 1) more than once, but even my newest book is over fours years old. That’s why I offer them free as often as Amazon will allow. They’re old and have already sold tens of thousands of copies on Kindle alone. I think they’re done. I am no longer actively promoting them. I’ve said okay to these types of exchanges in the past out of politeness. Unfortunately, I’m usually the only one participating. I buy your book and leave my thoughts on Amazon–but I never hear from you again. That is just rude. I will no longer do this. I do buy a lot of my fellow blogger’s books and will continue to do so when something looks good to me. I don’t expect nor want anything in return for this.

Okay, I’m done. Now to freshen the air around here, how about a few pretty pictures for all my blogosphere friends out there. (if I have any left)

Crescent Moon

Crescent Moon

Sunrise

Sunrise

Sunrise-2

Sunrise-2

Cloud Wall at Sunrise

Cloud Wall at Sunrise

 

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Author: Elizabeth Melton Parsons

I'm a novelist, poet, and artist. I love books, nature, art, and gardening. I'm a rock hound and there's a photo of me with a cool fossil rock on my about page, I take a lot of nature pictures. The background here is one of mine. Unfortunately I recently lost my wonderful husband, but I'm grateful to have the blessing of two beautiful sons. elizabethmeltonparsons.wordpress.com is Β© Elizabeth Melton Parsons 2007-2017. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Elizabeth Melton Parsons with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

65 thoughts on “Get Off My Back

  1. Awesome post – can absolutely relate to every one of your list. In my own list I would also add

    Do not demand that I follow you or check out your blog. If I like it, I’ll read it and follow without feeling obligated to.

    Do not spend your time reading every post I create just for the sole purpose of ripping it apart and pointing out everything that you feel I have got wrong, just to be antagonistic. I love discussion, but if you consistently don’t like it, don’t read it.

    Do not comment with nothing but a link to your blog.

    Phew! I feel better now.

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  2. I follow you because I like your posts and I usually agree with what you have to say. Today is no exception. You are saying what others are thinking and I applaud you!

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  3. Elizabeth, excellent post. Often, it is hard to understand why a few spoil the good of others simply for their own satisfaction. Your words were well said. My prayers are with you in your healing. Rest well to come back soon. Your pictures are lovely this morning, making my day. Thank you, Elizabeth. πŸ™‚

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  4. Clearing the air is usually a good thing, and you did it well! Good post….:-)

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  5. Oh my word, Elizabeth. I can’t believe, you of all people, would be the recipient of such hateful e-mails. I’m happy you spoke out. To me blogging is about making connections, encouraging each other and helping one another. In my opinion, those e-mails are being sent by people who are jealous of your talent and goodness. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with such nonsense. Take care of your back. I’ve had two back surgeries in my past, so I feel your pain. The least amount of sitting you do, the better. Walking has always been the best medicine for me. xo

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    • Oh, I’ve had some doozies over the years, Jill. For some reason I’m the type to rouse people’s passions and not in a good way, unfortunately. LOL I’ve met so many wonderful friends online. People I will probably never meet in person, but who are very important to me. And I’m sure not going to let a few nit wits sour that for me. Thank you for your lovely, supportive comment, Jill. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. ((HUGS))

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  6. Sending you all the healing i can, Dear Elizabeth.
    You have my full support and sympathy as a fellow back sufferer.
    May you be better soonest.
    Best to you
    john

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  7. You go girl! I’m so fed up with the nonsense of spam comments, bad comments and just plain impolite characters that seem to find a way to make their presence known.

    I too have people using my painting images for their own and we are dealing with the issue; I’ve posted about it and will be following up on their cease and desist in using my work for their marketing.

    Why isn’t everyone using the tool that allows you to monitor every comment, this wipes out all the nonsense before it hits any of your posts. All you have to do every other day is in your dashboard, under comments, delete permanently the spam comments. This way you don’t have to deal with the mental nonsense that comes with inappropriate comments.

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  8. Way to go, Elizabeth!

    Sorry you’re dealing with such negative stuff.
    You reminded me that I’ll have to find a way to stamp my copyright on my photos.
    Just have to learn how.
    Meanwhile, I’ll BUY your short story. I did not get to the free download this weekend – two family members took ill and I remembered at inopportune moments.

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    • Thanks so much, Cynthia. Sorry you missed the freebie. I’ll be having another one soon. I used to add a water mark to all my stuff, but I hated the way it looked and I really don’t mind people using my stuff for personal, non commercial purposes, as long as they give credit back to me. Unfortunately some people seem to think everything that comes up in an image search is in the public domain and they can snatch it up, stick it in a collection and charge people to use it. Ridiculous! I’m sorry to hear you had family illness and hope everyone is feeling better now. πŸ™‚

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  9. And Elizabeth: I forgot perhaps the most important thing: I’m sorry about your back pain. It’s an awful thing. Depending on the pain, ice packs, not heat, may offer a bit of relief. I’ve suffered with it for years and have tried them all, so please forgive my offering unsolicited advice.

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    • I don’t mind the unsolicited advice at all, Cynthia. πŸ˜€ I’ve had this off and on since I was teen and fell from a tree onto a rocky creek bank. Broke some ribs and damaged my kidneys. Messed myself up. Now every time I strain my back, inflammation builds around my spine and kidneys and I suffer. But it’s getting some better finally. Thanks for the support. πŸ™‚

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      • I’m so sorry, Elizabeth. It’s an awful thing, chronic pain. I live with it and I think only those who suffer extreme pain can really understand because that kind of pain is hard to describe. I hope it eases soon.

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  10. I can’t offer anything but sympathy, concern and speedy recovery for your back. For your blogging issues, I am astounded. It has been suggested to me to put a watermark on my personal photos which I have yet to figure out how to do. Sometimes I use something from the internet but as you say, they are floating around with no credit to the originator whether it’s clipart or photos. I am trying to use less of those and more of my own as I get more savvy with both my camera and photoshop. I am amazed at bloggers who only repost. They give credit to you but all they do is repost. I’m not sure how that impacts my blog as far as stats go. One blogger says it’s a bad thing another is pleased so I’m not sure. To me this whole this is a big black hole where I put words and if I’m lucky, somebody makes me feel good with a response. Hope to see you around when you are up to it.

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    • The watermark works, but I hate the way it looks, which kind of defeats the purpose of sharing something I find beautiful with others. And as I told Cynthia, I don’t mind people using them for non commercial purposes and credit back to me. I really don’t think that’s unreasonable. And would it kill them to ask permission? I mean–really. LOL. I’m not sure about the reblog thing. I always appreciate a reblog. I believe I’ve picked up a few followers that way. But whether it’s a good thing or not?? Have a beautiful day, Kate, and thank you for coming by and being so supportive. πŸ™‚

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  11. preach it!

    I am sorry to hear about your back – I have back issues of my own and can deeply sympathize.

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  12. Well I’m just glad you were “on the ball” and were able to identify the problem so quickly….sorry to hear about your pain dear friend, but just so you know, I truly can empathise right now as I too am experiencing much of the same. (tell you more in a snail mail I think)….Love you, and if it helps, I always “have your back”!! LOL

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    • Oh, Deb. I know how you suffer with your back. 😦 I pray you will feel better soon and I will look forward to that snail mail. I am drafting one to you as well, my lovely friend. You take care of yourself and don’t work so hard. I have your back as well. πŸ˜€ LOVE YOU! ❀

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  13. Well said Elizabeth! I pray your back will get better soon! Blessings!

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  14. I hope your back feel better soon Elizbeth and I am glad you came clean. I don’t like the haters! Anyway, I loved the pictures. May you get well soon πŸ™‚

    -Naima

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  15. Okk…now that’s one side of yours which has been revealed itself for the first time!! I think I am gonna make sure that I never ever p*** you off!!! πŸ™‚ But, going back to the postI fail to understand why people cannot mind their own business!!
    And I sincerely hope that you get well real soon!! πŸ™‚

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    • Yeah, I have my spunky, evil side. 😈 LOL That’s a very good question–why can’t they mind their own business? I guess because we as humans in general feel we know what’s best for everyone and want to meddle where we shouldn’t. Most of us restrain ourselves, but I guess the urge is too hard to resist in some. I’m so glad you came by. Thank you for the support. xoxo

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  16. Dearest Elizabeth. So glad you had the guts to tell people the way you feel. It probably felt good to get it off your chest and maybe now people will get off your back. Speaking of your back, I hope it gets better soon. I have been a back sufferer for many years. On the advice of my doctor I have been doing sit ups and other core strengthening exercises every day. Since I started the regime I haven’t had any serious back set backs.

    Not sure if I told you but the book version of β€œLizzie and the Boys Club” finally arrived. I am going to give it to my soon to be ten year old granddaughter for her birthday.I am sure she will love it as much as I loved the kindle version.

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    • I hope your granddaughter loves “Lizzie” and doesn’t find it too tame by today’s standards. I’m sorry you too suffer from the misery of having back problems, Elaine. But super glad the core strengthening is doing the trick. I’ll have to try some. Unfortunately the sit ups have always made mine worse for some reason. But there are other core strengthening exercises I could try. And I may just try the sit ups again too. Thanks for reminding me that we MUST keep that core strong. (even when we don’t want too) πŸ˜€

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  17. Wow, I’m so sorry to hear all of this! Nothing like this has happened to me yet and I pray that it doesn’t. If people don’t like what we post on our own sites, why can’t they just not visit and/or not comment?! And as for stealing your photos, I’m not sure there is much of a way to change that unless you want to put a huge watermark right across the image, but then the alters the beauty of the photo I think. I pray that your back is better soon because like some of your other commenters here, I suffer with back issues as well. Now go, shut this thing down, and get some rest. This too shall pass! Don’t let it steal in joie de vivre! Hugs, N ❀

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    • Natalie, you are much too sweet for anyone to ever take offence. But now, they just might start mooching your stuff. I’m like you, I hate watermarks. They do indeed alter the image and ruin the beauty, which of course defeats the purpose of sharing them. I can understand watermarks for professional photographers who are simply advertising their work as a photographer and not just sharing something lovely with others. I once tried just putting a copyright in the bottom corner of the picture but that didn’t work. They just cropped off that part. Oh well, we just deal with it and move on. That’s all we can do. Have a great day and thank you so much. xo

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  18. I am so sorry to read about your back Elizabeth. Get well soon and lay off the bike sheds ! πŸ˜‰

    Wow ! You are under attack. You are doing the right thing by ignoring them and, that’s right, it’s your blog to do with as you wish.

    Hugs (gentle ones as I’m being careful of your back) xoxox ❀

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  19. Elizabeth, how do I say this succinctly, so as not to make your back hurt from reading a lot? I agree agree agree with you on all your points. I am with you 100 per cent. I have found that in order for me to get through my art world days and my blog days, I have to make myself think that people are so self-centered. On my brighter days, I say they are busy. Internet sponsorship and copyright infringement is familiar turf to me. I have been violated. I have gotten legal council twice and have had the situations changed.

    I hope you feel better. I also know what pain is, and I am sorry for you!

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    • Thanks so much, Hollis. Sorry you’ve had to fight the moochers out there. Back about 14 years ago when I had my first website, those background sets were very popular and I used to search the internet to find new ones. I never dreamed they were stealing copyrighted images to put these together until I came across one that was made up of a painting by a well known artist I was very familiar with. He had, in fact, granted me permission to use an image of one of his paintings as an accompaniment to a poem I’d written. I knew he’d not released this other image to the public domain and no where on there was any credit to him. After that I made all my own images and backgrounds. I couldn’t trust those background sites anymore. Copyright infringement was pretty rampant back then. I do think people are a little more copyright savvy now. I think?? Maybe?? πŸ™„

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      • I always say, the internet has no integrity. Therefore, it’s up to us. I think if a person is successful (even if only in the eyes of the “infringer”,) that jealousy will drive him/her to that sort of thing. My incidents happened fall 2013.
        But word gets around and I have had no problems since. Good luck to you. Good guys do win!

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  20. I agree with your points…it’s really annoying when someone nags for a review or uses my photographs without my consent. You’ve nailed the issues… πŸ™‚

    Hope you’ll soon be relieved of your back pain..take care and last but not the least…wonderful photographs… πŸ™‚

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  21. There are some strange and utterly misguided people around that email some strange stuff. I had a comment like that once, I wasn’t going to make a big deal out of it but then I stuck it on the blog and everybody came out in virulent (to say the least) support.

    Having said that all the best people are here and I took advantage of your free book offer a while back which is now sitting safely on my laptop…as to which book well if Amazon didn’t inform you it will be a surprise when i get around to reviewing.

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    • Oh, now that’s not fair. I’m so curious! Amazon doesn’t tell who buys or downloads for free and since I gave a way over 3,000 downloads this time, there’s no way to know. I just hope whichever you chose, you enjoy. One of those books was edited to be so far removed from my actual voice/writing style that I cringe whenever I think of someone reading it and relating it to me. But I’m not saying which it is. LOL. If you do ever post your thoughts on my book, I’ll tell you if that’s the one. Thanks, Ste J. πŸ™‚

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      • I promise to post them sometime soon, well before Christmas, I am so far behind with books it is distressing. I look forward to finding out if I have said book as well, it’s all drama!

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  22. WE like honesty, not sneakiness nor other ways you described our fellow bloggers, Elizabeth! I am not a fan of people who are not open-minded and try to ‘set them straight,’ but have been known to delete or edit their comments on my own post. Thanks for setting us straight and so hope your back will be healed and better, Elizabeth! Gentle hugs for your body, sweetie!

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  23. Oh dear. I don’t know you (I’m a newbie blogger of 3 weeks), but the comments that I’ve read are rather disturbing for me…I started blogging at the suggestion of friends and family members who felt my writing was funny and felt I needed to share with a greater audience than just my Facebook friends, but I’m concerned about the “negativity, meaness, and lack of integrity” that has been shown to you and others. Is this a common thing to bloggers? I just got a few fellow bloggers reading my posts today and I found a couple of them “rather shady characters”and not too keen to have them “following me”, if you understand what I’m saying? I went on their blogs and they are NOTHING like the kind of people that I would choose to follow or care to have follow ME! Is there any way to block them? Any way, I’m so sorry that this is happening to you! You seem like a lovely woman and I sincerely hope/pray for a speedy recovery!!!! πŸ™‚

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    • Hi, Lucie, and a very sunny welcome to the blogging world. Please don’t be discouraged by the few bad apples out there. The WordPress community for the most part is a wonderful, supportive group of beautiful people. It may take some time, but eventually you’ll make some lovely friends here. As for blocking followers, there’s no way to do that except to make your blog ‘private’. That way the public will not be able to see it. But you certainly are under no obligation to follow anyone back. And even if you do, you don’t have to actually visit them. If you ignore them, they’ll probably go away. Thank you for your kind support, Lucie, and I hope you stick around. You’ll love it here. πŸ™‚ Have a wonderful day. xo

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  24. Many thanks for your gracious reply (especially in light of the fact that you’re in PAIN!), Elizabeth! I’m sincerely glad that “most bloggers” are pretty nice people! Between the comments on your post that I read yesterday and the blogs that I visited of some of my “newly acquired followers”, I was beginning to feel that I had made a BIG mistake in taking my humerous postings more public. I’m not looking for any “craziness”; got enough “craziness” in my own life,! (And at least MY CRAZINESS comes from MY life and at times is SELF IMPOSED! ) Don’t need anyone else’s “baggage”! Anyways, many, many thanks for taking the time to respond, Sweetie! Your blog is as beautiful as you! Hopefully in another year or so, mine will be a little “easier on the eyes”, as well! Hugs back at ya!! πŸ™‚ Lucie

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  25. Elizabeth, so sorry to hear about your back pain. I am catching up on your posts, and apologize for this tardy comment. I hope you are feeling all better by now! Great post, too. Sorry you have had to deal with such things. I am appalled at how many fellow bloggers have had some website steal their photographs or art and attempt to make money on them recently. I hope you got all of the ones that had pirated your beautiful photographs to take them down and hope it doesn’t happen again. Wish you the best!

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    • Thank you so much for the kind support, Janell. I was only able to achieve results with one of the sites so far, but still working on it. My back is better, but still can’t sit for more than five minutes before it returns. It’s a pain I’ve had for many years. I’m used to it and try to ignore it as much as possible. Don’t worry about being late at commenting. Comments are welcome any time and on any posts, old or new. πŸ˜€ I’m just always so grateful anyone takes the time to visit and leave a few words.

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  26. OMG! I JUST met you, Elizabeth!!! JUST met you! I just started blogging and wrote to you a few weeks ago because of my concern with the “hateful stuff” that was going on in your life and NOW THIS!!! Mean people SUCK! Plain and simple and I, for one, am tired of the “little buggers”, so I’m here to say there are MORE OF US NICE PEOPLE OUT HERE than THOSE BUGGERS!!!! I am so, so sorry that you are leaving….so, so sorry. I have to say, though, I sincerely wonder how long I’ll be around…I’m not a “game player” and my “skin is rather THIN”, so I’m not so sure this “blooging thing” is for those of us with “thin skin”….I’m a lover and don’t have the energy for such negativity and such nonsense. You, Sweet Lady, are a “class act” and we don’t “know each other”, but I know people and Sweetie you’re “Good Stuff”!!! Be well, Elizabeth. Be well. I sincerely wish for you much love, healing and rest, Sweet Pea……. ❀

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    • Wow, Lucie, I was so touched by your lovely comment. It seems I attract the mean ones from time to time, probably because I’ve been around for several years. Mostly they don’t bother me, but I’ve had a lot of other things weighing on my mind, so it got to me this time. But the good part is that I may attract the weirdos, but I also meet so many wonderful people like you. I certainly hope I haven’t discouraged you from blogging. I so enjoy reading your blog. It’s not only filled with humor, but quite inspiring as well and we all need a little of that on a regular basis. Thank you for not only your kindness to me, but for sharing a little of your life with us. πŸ™‚

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      • Aw…you’re welcome, Elizabeth! If I bring a smile to your face and a chuckle to your heart, then it’s all worth it to me! I’m a lover, not a fighter. I sincerely hope I can continue to bring laughter to your life (as well as others!) Have a lovely Christmas, Elizabeth…May your stocking be full, your pantry be plentiful and may you be surrounded with an abundance of love, laughter and total, child-like wonder…Merry Christmas, Elizabeth!!! Merry Christmas, to you and your loved ones!!!!! πŸ™‚

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